Bourdain’s Ex-Girlfriend Outed as a Sexual Predator

By Karen

The New York Times published a story about Asia Argento and a teenager. Continued association with Argento after this could have had serious, lasting repercussions for Anthony Bourdain’s reputation as a man of integrity were he alive today to give a shit.

Argento is paying a financial settlement to a young man whom, as a minor, she allegedly assaulted. This would seem to negate her role as a #MeToo movement leader. If she were a man, they’d immediately vilify her and trample any shred of career she may have left. Just ask Al Franken.

It’s a complicated story, so I’ll just lay it out chronologically…

1997 — Producer Harvey Weinstein performs unwanted oral sex on Argento in a hotel room in Cannes when she’s 21. She and Weinstein date on and off for years later, but Argento keeps memory of his clumsy first move in her back pocket.

2004 — Argento meets 7-year-old actor Jimmy Bennett, who’s hired to play a son to her prostitute mother character in a movie, The Heart is Deceitful Above All Things, which Argento also helps write and directs. The film includes a scene where Bennett’s character is raped. (Two other child actors shared the role, so I don’t know if Bennett was actually in the rape scene.)

In the years that follow, Argento and Bennett maintain a cordial mother-son relationship on social media.

May 9, 2013 — Bennett, now 17, visits Argento, 37, in her hotel room in California. He still lives with his parents and has to be driven everywhere. Argento asks for them to be alone, serves liquor, then removes Bennett’s pants, performs oral sex on him and initiates intercourse. Afterward, they take selfies in bed together for Instagram. The age of consent in California is 18, so this could make Argento’s actions statutory rape whether Bennett was willing or not.

April 2016 — Anthony Bourdain and Argento meet when she appears in a Rome episode of Parts Unknown.

September 2016 — Anthony Bourdain moves into his own apartment shortly before he and Ottavia Busia-Bourdain announce they’re splitting up.

February 2017 — Bourdain and Argento let it be known they’re a couple.

October 2017 — Ronan Farrow writes a story for the New Yorker that includes Argento’s 1997 Weinstein assault. This propels her into leadership of the #MeToo movement, along with fellow Weinstein accuser Rose McGowan. The women become best friends.

Meanwhile, on the West Coast, Jimmy Bennett sees this and starts having bad flashbacks to Argento’s hotel room in 2013.

November 2017 — Bourdain’s attorney, Richard Hofstetter, receives a notice of intent to sue from Bennett, addressed to Argento. It asks for $3.5 million in compensation for assault and battery, lost wages and intentional infliction of emotional distress. Argento hires her own attorney, Carrie Goldberg, who specializes in defending victims of online attacks.

December 2017 — Bourdain writes about #MeToo: “I stand unhesitatingly and unwaveringly with the women. Not out of virtue, or integrity, or high moral outrage —  as much as I’d like to say so  — but because late in life, I met one extraordinary woman with a particularly awful story to tell, who introduced me to other extraordinary women with equally awful stories.” (quoted from today’s story on

April 2018 — The suit is settled for $380,000. Bennett receives an initial lump sum of $200,000, with the remainder to be paid over 18 months.

June 5, 2018 — Photos of Argento in Rome with 28-year-old journalist Hugo Clement are published online while Bourdain is in France shooting Parts Unknown.

June 8, 2018 — Bourdain dies by suicide.

August 19, 2018 — After receiving via encrypted email from an unknown source documents and photos about the Bennett-Argento lawsuit, The New York Times publishes the story.

Surprise, surprise, CNN also did a story, which consists almost entirely of quotes from The New York Times piece. Not surprisingly, the Bourgento angle is buried near the end. CNN says they have tried to reach Argento, Bennett and various involved parties but are getting crickets like everyone else.

Now, the questions…

Did Bourdain know he was dating a female sexual predator when he was singing her praises for the #MeToo movement?

Would Bourdain excuse a rape? Apparently so. He didn’t walk away after the intent to sue hit last November, but is reported to have helped Argento “navigate” it.

How did Argento spin it to Tony make herself the victim, or at least blameless?

Where did Argento get $200,000?

Who supplied the information to The New York Times?

Rose McGowan, in a stunning display of hypocrisy, tweeted that her heart is broken. And…

Like what? Argento basically admitted culpability with the settlement. Are they going to try to make Jimmy Bennett the bad guy now?

Under the settlement, Bennett can’t sue Argento, and there’s no gag order, so they’re both free to talk about it. However, nobody on any side of this matter would talk to the NYT about it beyond verifying the authenticity of the documents and photos.

Argento is mum right now, but her pattern is to shoot her mouth off, so we’ll see if she doesn’t try to somehow twist this. Her brand is becoming more toxic by the minute.

Wherever Harvey Weinstein is today, he must be laughing his ass off and thanking karma for being such a bitch.

140 Responses to Bourdain’s Ex-Girlfriend Outed as a Sexual Predator

  1. Ann86 says:

    So gross. As someone who was manipulated by someone only 8 years older than me when I was that age I will say that looking back I am horrified that an adult would have an interest in a teenager in his case and mine. On top of that, giving him alcohol? That would further complicate his ability to consent if the power/age imbalance didn’t eliminate that ability in the first place. I spent last week raging about Dane Cook, why can’t adults leave kids alone? I’m disappointed in Tony helping her with this but as we all know well her deceit and manipulation led him to do much worse in the end. Damn her for how she manipulates people.

  2. cavegrrl says:

    Bourdain had to have known about the Bennett assault, and I believe he paid the settlement. He was blindly in love with her.

  3. catsworking says:

    As I was saying just last week, all we’re looking for is truth and closure, and I think this story is the truth beginning to trickle out. Unfortunately, Bourdain becomes collateral damage for his complicity, but let’s hope his experience helps other men recognize that AA is poison.

    If Rose is right and there’s more to come (and perhaps it’s not the face-saving lies she’s expecting), this could mark the beginning of AA’s end.

  4. Lynn says:

    It begs the question what else was he complicit in with this vile bitch? If I was more conspiracy minded, I’d say she had him killed for fear that he’d spill about Jimmy (as the leaker has now done to the Times) once the Hugh pics surfaced and he realized their relationship was toast. After all, once she betrayed/dumped him, he surely wouldn’t have continued defending and championing her, unless by then he had basically handed her his balls to keep in some sort of blood locket around her neck. Oh wait, he kinda did.

    Tony was never a saint in my eyes. He cheated on Nancy, and if you go purely by timing, you could make the case he cheated on Ottavia with Ashtray. If the separation announcement blindsided Ottavia, that was cruel as well. He’s also no stranger to breaking the law from his drug days, but underage sex? How was that not his line in the sand? I really wish I didn’t know this. I can’t watch him now and not see HER, not see the two of them ‘navigating’ this Jimmy mess, and feel nauseated.

    The only silver lining is that there is finally vindication in seeing her go down. I wonder how many other young boys (and girls) she has in her closet?

  5. Donna Pavone says:

    I think he knew everything and after awhile believed it despite whatever spin she tried to give it. It’s doubtful she had $200K to just pull out of her ass,so I wonder who’s she did pull it out of

  6. Morganlf says:

    Spent all nite in fitful terrors. I dreamt of Bourdain, it was dreadful woke up in cold sweats. I’ll spare you all the details.

    There’s more, I feel it in my bones.

    This woman with her psychotic disorders, needs to be institutionalized and separated from her children. She is cruel, twisted feeding off this. She’s not done ruining Bourdains legacy.

    Nothing good will come of this.

    I echo everyone else, may she hoisted on her own petard.

  7. catsworking says:

    Morgan and Lynn, his slavish devotion to her might have been from knowing too much. He couldn’t see a way out without destroying his own career and life because he knew she wouldn’t go quietly.

    With the #MeToo movement, in hindsight he knowingly dove head-first into an empty pool because just ONE MONTH after her Weinstein story came out, Bennett’s intent to sue followed and he knew she was full of shit with her righteous fury.

    AA put him up to moving out on Ottavia and planting the separation story on Page Six. Maybe she was dictating all the wonderful things he said and wrote about her and the movement.

    Maybe the weight of the duplicity was aging him fast. And after all that, she punched him right in the face with those Hugo pics.

    I agree she has no business having custody of her children, and the world would be better off if she’s in a padded cell somewhere.

    At least we know she can only hurt the memory of Bourdain and not the man himself. But I think this is heading toward a very bad end.

    Donna, I suspect the timing of this story has something to do with Bourdain’s family going through his estate with his lawyer (who first received the intent to sue) and sorting out the money issues. And I agree with you it’s unlikely AA had/has a pot to piss in. She needed an 18-month payment schedule. Didn’t Bourdain’s will show him as only having $425K in savings or cash?

  8. Dingobeast says:

    Look at some pics of Jimmy Bennett at 17. He looks like he is MUCH younger, more like 10 or 12. She went after him because she is a degenerate who liked to control and abuse someone weaker. That poor kid, I believe him and I wish he gets more from her. Heads up, we will probably see more from other people she has abused.

  9. catsworking says:

    Dingobeast, agreed, Jimmy Bennett does look immature. She knew him from age 7. That she would ever think of him in a sexual way at her age (37) is pretty disgusting.

    Just came across this. She’s in danger of losing her job on X Factor

    There seems to be some hinting that Jimmy was trying to extort her because he was having money problems. How pathetic.

  10. leeduigon says:

    Karen, I couldn’t agree with you more. Spot on.

  11. Dingobeast says:

    Catsworking, looky:

    The law is getting involved here, as they should. She ran his family out of the hotel room, fed him booze and raped him. X Factor needs to shitcan her . Bruce Elliott is going to scorch her nasty ass so bad tomorrow she will feel it all the way across the pond. The more shit comes out, the more it becomes apparent that Tony could not maintain the illusion that Asshat was a decent human and that probably was the last straw.

  12. catsworking says:

    Thanks for the link, Jorie! She must have found 9-year-olds too mature for her.

  13. catsworking says:

    Dingobeast, thank you for that link! The Orange Janitor just reported on Twitter that AA is posting on Facebook that people are beginning to pile on. She must be glued to the ‘net today.

    I don’t get where X Factor is saying they need “confirmation” that she did it. The New York Times said they authenticated the documents and photos. With all the shit Trump keeps throwing at them about fake news, do the Italians think for a minute the NYT wouldn’t thoroughly cover all the bases for accuracy before publishing something this personally damning?

    Yes, I agree that in light of what he knew about AA (and we don’t even know the totality of what that might have been), Tony decided it was easier to check out than to face it all when it hit the fan. Especially since he knew his friends were worried about his seemingly fanatical devotion to her.

  14. Randi says:

    “He couldn’t see a way out without destroying his own career and life because he knew she wouldn’t go quietly.”
    I believe you nailed it here, Karen – and I suspect he might have been the one who wanted out, but simply could not see how to, without ruining his job, his economy and his whole life. How very sad. 😦
    I just hope that people will remember him for who he really was… a warm, sensitive, generous guy, although a bit extreme in his tastes.

  15. catsworking says:

    Randi, in the long run, I think this scandal will roll off his bio, especially if AA goes into full CYA mode and starts throwing lies around. People will assume she lied to Bourdain as well.

    Jimmy Bennett is still alive and he knows what happened. Just as he did when she started spouting off about Harvey Weinstein, he’ll feel compelled to come forward and set the record straight if she tries to make him look like he bears some responsibility in any way.

  16. LauraToo says:

    I just searched what the age of consent is in Italy, and it says it is 14. Not to take Asia’s side in this at all…but that’s probably how she explained it to Tony. She probably also explained that he hit on her, she gave in, and that once he saw her name in the news he decided to cash in. I’m guessing Tony just saw this as defending someone he cared about because he believed her.

  17. Mary Correia says:

    Check out JB parents:,_Inc

    Again it always comes back to money. Not sayin AA is right but this is probably why Jimmy came out after 5 years. What a tangled web!!

  18. Morganlf says:

    “Instant Karma’s gonna get you
    Gonna knock you right on the head
    You better get yourself together
    Pretty soon you’re gonna be dead
    What in the world you thinking of
    Laughing in the face of love
    What on earth you tryin’ to do
    It’s up to you, yeah you
    Instant Karma’s gonna get you
    Gonna look you right in the face
    Better get yourself together darlin’
    Join the human race
    How in the world you gonna see
    Laughin’ at fools like me
    Who in the hell d’you think you are
    A super star
    Well, right you are
    Well we all shine on
    Like the moon and the stars and the sun
    Well we all shine on
    Ev’ryone come on”

    -John Lennon

  19. Adele Prass says:

    This is all so tragic and sordid, and my first thought is what it has been doing/will do to Ariane. Being the daughter of a suicide is hard enough, but this notoriety makes it unimaginable.

    Morgan, when I read the NYT last night, I really couldn’t sleep, and some time around dawn, “Instant Karma” popped into my mind.

    And Karen, I agree with you and Lynn, that the Jimmy Bennett info may have come from the Bourdain camp. I shudder to think of what else may be coming off Tony’s electronics. BTW, somewhere, maybe with the Orange Janitor, an earlier Rose McGowan tweet surfaced. I can’t find it now, but it said something like, “Totally heartbtoken. AA and I became close about 10 months ago through our shared assault by Harvey Weinstein . . .” I can’t recall how it ended, but I felt Rose was trying to distance herself a little.

  20. Bob says:

    The shit just keeps piling up around ashtray. She’s been poison since the first time her and Tony met. She must have really laid the Bullshit on thick with him to get him interested.

    I’m so so very happy that karma is treating her like the gutter rat she truly is. The kid should have stuck to his guns and at least tried for a cool million instead of settling.

  21. feijicha says:

    For whatever reason she was like some rock star to him– her familial credentials being born to a movie director, and being a filmmaker herself…. that move she did with Vin Diesel was running on cable last week– my gawd she’s an AWFUL actress…. wow. WTF. How he found her sexy and intriguing and all that….. I just have to think it was, as others on here have commented, that she just appealed in all the wrong ways to the darker side of him. Like playing with fire. Who was the other actress he wished for to be on his show? (I forget). Too bad he hadn’t hooked up with her, whoever she is.

  22. Karen,
    I totally get why anyone would hypothesize that the leak came from Bourdain’s camp. But what would they have to gain by leaking this story?

    First and most important (I believe) is that they would be most concerned about preserving and guarding his legacy. Leaking this crummy story to the press would be like smearing shit all over his reputation. (Sorry for the awful analogy)

    I’ve asked myself…what would be the dominant motivating driver of the leaker? To ruin and destroy AB’s stature, his good name, his character & reputation? Because that’s exactly what this story-bomb did. It placed him squarely under a bad light and folks are now, after reading the article, viewing him in a dimmed light. I just looked at the public comments left on the article over at NYT …as of 15 minutes ago, there were over 1,035 comments! Holy crap! And it is trending as the number one story!

    I don’t think the family would have knowingly done that to him.

    I believer that the individual (s) behind the leak are motivated by desire to undermine #metoo. To them, Anthony is just collateral damage. It screams HW camp, to me. He is laughing his ass-off and doing a happy dance.

    There would be many ways one could get access to the leaked documents. Money most likely to induce another to take the action of leaking papers.

  23. feijicha says:

    Of course Weinstein’s lawyer has commented
    “What is perhaps most egregious is the timing, which suggests that at the very same time Argento was working on her own secret settlement for the alleged sexual abuse of a minor, she was positioning herself at the forefront of those condemning Mr. Weinstein, despite the fact that her sexual relationship with Mr. Weinstein was between two consenting adults which lasted for more than four years.”

    Brafman added: “The sheer duplicity of her conduct is quite extraordinary and should demonstrate to everyone how poorly the allegations against Mr. Weinstein were actually vetted and accordingly, cause all of us to pause and allow due process to prevail, not condemnation by fundamental dishonesty.”

    And the comment in the settlement letter from AA’s own attorney is pretty wild:

    According to documents sent to The Times, Argento paid Bennett $380,000 (£298,000), with a letter sent in April confirming the final details of the deal and a payment schedule. Carrie Goldberg, Argento’s lawyer, reportedly wrote in the letter: “We hope nothing like this ever happens to you again. You are a powerful and inspiring creator and it is a miserable condition of life that you live among shitty individuals who’ve preyed on both your strengths and your weaknesses.”

  24. Morganlf says:

    “It screams HW camp, to me. He is laughing his ass-off and doing a happy dance.”


  25. catsworking says:

    Welcome, Mary Correia. I didn’t open any of the attached documents, but I’m not getting the connect here. I assume Martha Bennett is Jimmy’s mother. But Rockin’ Crepes?

  26. catsworking says:

    Adele, Rose wrote that tweet right before the one I captured. She is trying to distance herself, saying they only knew each other for 10 months. Her next tweet is the one in my post saying there’s more to come, and be gentle with her.

    I’m so glad I didn’t find out about any of this until this morning. Had I seen it last night, I’d have been up all night, too.

  27. bamboo.skewer says:

    Well whoever leaked it had access to the legal documents and the bed selfies. So who would have access to that?

    I don’t think Bennett looks 10. To me he looks like a 16-17 year old (he was 17 for only 2 months at the time), on the verge of busting out into a full-fledged manly look. He looks like all the other boys in prom season photos. AA happened to have a trip to LA for work. He was looking good and finally “old enough” or so she thought, and all stars aligned.

    I feel like the rape was a mix of both Harvey’s playbook + Asia’s sexually deviant childhood. What happened between her and Harvey is so well documented, the parallels there are obvious. But the “mom-son” relationship turning into a sexual situation, and the hurtful abuse of parental power, also has parallels — with her dad/parents. She’s openly said in many interviews that her father had her raped in a movie, as a teenager. I thought she also said she had actual intercourse as a teen with an actor during one of her father’s movies, but I could be wrong. She’s talked many times about her unhappy childhood and you can read between the lines about her parents’ treatment of her. I sense there was something triggering about her relationship with Bennett, the mother/son relationship in a movie, carried over into real life, then once Bennett reaches the age around the time when Asia was sexually abused in movies by her own father, BAM. She strikes.

    The Orange Janitor has said there’s more to come. As of today, who knows what that is. Right now I’m not sure if any young child is fair game for Asia to groom. It seems like the mother/son relationship was key for her.

    I wonder if she was still married to Morgan at the time? Later in May and June 2013 there are many photos of her with Morgan, working together and they went to personal outings with other people, and someone refers to him as her husband. Though it looks like they got divorced sometime in 2013.

    She posted numerous times a day on her Instagram in those days. She documented that day in May with Bennett really, really well. I looks odd, that series of photos. Because you can see she traveled and hung around with other people for work and pleasure. But most of the time there’s 1, maybe 2 photos. With Bennett there were numerous photos, almost like she wanted to publicly document that he’s smiling, he looks fine. Hmmmm. Why.

    The stuffed bunny smooshed on his or her face … WTF is that? In later months the bunny shows up again. She says she sleeps with it.

  28. catsworking says:

    feijicha, thanks for that link. Not that I give a rat’s ass what Megyn Kelly thinks about anything, but for the story to hit a major network is a step in the right direction.

  29. catsworking says:

    Miss Maggie, the only people with ready access to the documentation the NYT received would be Bourdain’s people, Asia and her lawyer, and Jimmy Bennett and his lawyer. The NYT also said it authenticated what it got with people familiar with the documents. I don’t think they’d go to Weinstein and run with anything he put out.

    The potential damage to Tony is only in the short run. The end game is to expose AA for the lying, manipulative piece of work that she is to put a stop to her before anyone else gets killed.

    It could be an attempt to undermine #MeToo, but that bunch will only strengthen their position if they denounce AA as vehemently as they have crushed men.

    I think Bourdain will be vindicated as AA’s hapless dupe because I find it inconceivable that he would have sold himself out to support her if he knew the full breadth of her treachery. He had too much to lose in doing so.

  30. catsworking says:

    feijicha, Carrie Goldberg’s letter shows her to be exactly the type of fine, professional attorney you would expect AA to hire. (I’m being sarcastic. She could have actually been describing her client when talking about “shitty individuals” who preyed on Jimmy.)

    And Weinstein’s lawyer has a point. It was wrong from the beginning to lump AA in with all the other women Harvey legitimately attacked. If his lawyer gets anything thrown out, it should be her claim of “rape.” Yes, I know there’s all the psycho blah blah about becoming attached to her attacker, and her claim that she feared angering him.

    But she’s shown through ALL the other relationships we know about that she’s a scheming user. Period. She’ll do or say anything to get what she wants.

  31. Lynn says:

    None of the charges against Weinstein involve Ashtray. I’m not a lawyer but that doesn’t sound like a strategy that can in any way help HW legally. My money is on someone close to either AB or Jimmy.

    Karen you asked about the word ‘navigate’- again not sure how a lawyer defines that but I took it as meaning he helped her, whether that be financial help or any other type. You don’t have to be a lawyer to advise someone on something like this. Perhaps giving his opinions on the pros/cons of paying Jimmy off vs. fighting it. Or maybe simply advising her to use his lawyer.

    I certainly hope AB was duped, but I’m struggling with what she could have told him to get $380k. Perhaps that she miscalculated and thought Jimmy was already 18. Who knows. Perhaps he was so far gone all she needed to do was ask. Maybe she told him it was to renovate the house he bought her.

    Feijicha – it was Rosario Dawson.

    Bruce Elliott has now posted on this:

  32. Lynn says:

    OMG warning – Elliott has posted some extremely graphic pics of Ashtray’s crack den of a crotch. Scroll with caution.

  33. Dingobeast says:

    Oh, ewww! Thanks, Lynn Even with the warning, that was nasty!!!!. Did she do porn? Ick.

  34. catsworking says:

    Lynn, thanks for link. I knew Bruce wouldn’t remain silent on this bombshell development with AA.

    But OMG, where did he find all that AA porn? It makes me feel sick to think that Bourdain actually considered it an honor to lose himself in that fetid hole. At least he’s beyond the reach of STDs now, but I hope Jimmy has had himself tested. It would be a shame for him at 22 to find himself stuck with some lifelong condition after being raped by a woman with 20 years of promiscuous sex under her belt.

    PS: I am still laughing hysterically at “crack den of a crotch.” I can hardly type straight. Perfect description! I feel sorry for the children that had to pass through that tunnel of horrors to be born.

  35. feijicha says:

    This story is on every single national news broadcast today. I’m out of the US and it’s headlining here also. I am trying to imagine what AB would be doing tonight if he were still alive. Would he be issuing statements in her defense? You know the media would be seeking comment from him given their relationship. He’d be dragged into this whole sordid disgusting mess. Would he admit he’d been duped, or would he feel a need to double down and defend her? That would have professionally damaged him in untold ways. Would she be making unreasonable demands that he support her publicly? Ugh. The whole thing is beyond trashy.

  36. Lynn says:

    “t makes me feel sick to think that Bourdain actually considered it an honor to lose himself in that fetid hole. At least he’s beyond the reach of STDs now”

    LMFAO Karen!! oh man I needed that laugh. I was thinking the same when I saw them. Double penetration, no less. What a skank. There are prob pics out there somewhere of her taking on a horse. The poor horse would get lost in that Lincoln Tunnel, but still.

  37. Shannon says:

    I’m pretty sure a few of those photos are Photoshopped. Her head is exactly the same in two of the photos and her parts don’t seem anatomically consistent to me.

  38. catsworking says:

    feijicha, I don’t watch the national news, but this is fascinating. I’m sure it’s the #MeToo connection rather than Bourdain that’s driving it, but he would have been sucked into the maelstrom for sure and he would have had no choice but to denounce her or destroy his own reputation by continuing to defend her. Would he have gone that far, or cut his losses? She created for him a Trumpian Catch-22 of “truth versus lie-for-me.” He would have been totally trapped.

    I think the attraction for the media is that this is a WOMAN attacking a man. We have seen almost none of that. If AA is treated as all the men have been, she will be a pariah and her little shred of career will be ruined. If not, then the whole #MeToo movement will be labeled a man-hating sham.

  39. catsworking says:

    Welcome, Shannon. I didn’t study them in too much detail, but I actually hope you are right. On the other hand, the photo I’ve seen of her tonguing a big dog was enough for me without the the full beaver shots.

  40. creiber says:

    OMG. not yet read the comments. So awful. I know you are so upset with CNN. My first reaction is that they are just protecting Bourdain. After I think about it, I will say more. I really think the CNN family might be looking out for him, With not airing the episodes. wow.

  41. catsworking says:

    Welcome, creiber. Suggest you skim the comments before weighing in. We have already sliced and diced this every which way, and CNN is not coming out smelling like a rose. As a supposedly reputable news organization, keeping their skirts clean to protect “family” is not an option.

  42. creiber says:

    Makes me sick then. headcrushing awful sick.

  43. Lynn says:

    Shannon, I see what you mean. I wasn’t exactly looking at her head in those shots. lol Still the fact that it’s totally plausible that she could have posed for such photos speaks volumes. I’m sticking by my original horse-porn statement.

  44. Donna Pavone says:

    Lynn,I’m laughing at “fetid hole” as well! Have you seen any of Ashtray’s YouTube performances with I think a French band? I don’t remember the bands name but they will now be forever “Fetid Hole”

  45. creiber says:

    if it was someone that was important to me, I don’t think I would implicate him, even being a journalist. unless I knew for a fact that he was complicit in this. Her actions do not make him an accomplice. I think that CNN is just not giving her royalties because she is not a good person. I think they do not like her. I think they are not giving her publicity, I am not standing up for them. If they care about him, they will not capitalize on his death.

  46. RD says:

    #Shetoo posters have gone up in LA, with AA’s photo.

  47. Morganlf says:

    Photo shopped. Creiber…they will, sadly he’s a commodity to them.

    Donna & Karen et all…

    Ladies & Gents for your listening pleasure a big Catsworking welcome for: FETID HOLE!!!

  48. feijicha says:

    With their latest hit song, “Crack den crotch!”

  49. feijicha says:

    Check out the screenshot within this article of her IG post before meeting up with him of a selfie she took in the very hotel, which she captioned:

    asiaargentoWaiting for my long lost son my love @jimmymbennett in trepidation #marinadelrey smoking cigarettes like there was no next week

  50. shielawinona says:

    haha they know each other a little bit more 10 months

  51. Mira says:

    In the long run, thankfully this will not affect AB’s legacy and reputation.
    There has been so much filth aired since the metoo movement started, that none of it has a chance to remain newsworthy for longer than a few days.
    I hope it gives the information hungry fans some sense of closure, and people can eventually go back to occasionally viewing a rerun of a favourite episode, or discover a new episode not yet seen and enjoy it for what it is.
    His immediate family and friends have certainly moved on. And so they should.

  52. Morganlf says:

    Wish I could move on. Geriatricgenious said it best:

    “She also seems to have a talent for disregarding the consequences of her bad choices. No matter how negative the relationship, she seems to get her jollies-off vilifying, tormenting, degrading and insulting people she snares in her web.
    I can never forgive Anthony for falling for her bullshit.”

    Nor can I.

  53. catsworking says:

    creiber, CNN is going to do a full-length feature documentary that’s going to be shown in movie theaters before they run it on CNN. Some would argue that qualifies as capitalizing on his death.

    But if all the major networks are talking about this story and CNN isn’t (I don’t know, I don’t have the TV on), then it speaks volumes about CNN’s lack of objectivity and gives Trump ammo to accuse them of cherry-picking what they report, which we already know they do.

    It’s probably time for them to hang up the old “Most Trusted Name in News” tagline because it just doesn’t fit.

  54. catsworking says:

    Morgan, feijicha, you guys are KILLING ME! I’m laughing so hard it hurts!

  55. catsworking says:

    shielawinona, thanks for that Twitter link. People are amazing at what they can dig up in the old archives. RMG is an opportunist who will glom onto anybody who will help her stay in the public eye.

    Unfortunately, there is really no taking “sides” in this situation. AA’s behavior was illegal and an indefensible assault on a minor, made even worse by her vociferous condemnations of Weinstein for doing much less to her when she of legal age. I’m glad the LA police are investigating.

    What gives me the icks is that AA knew this guy from when he was a LITTLE BOY. He bears a bit of resemblance to her own son. The selfie she took on the balcony of her hotel room before he got there was captioned like she was already planning to jump his bones to play out some sick mother-rapes-son fantasy. Poor Jimmy walked into a trap, and whoever drove him there obviously trusted AA enough to let her be alone with him.

    Bottom line is that she preyed on someone she’d known as a child while she knew one of his family members was patiently waiting nearby. On the scale of sick, that sends the needle flying across the room.

    Can hardly wait to see what kind of statement she eventually issues.

  56. Shannon says:

    Victoria Albert (author / JT LeRoy) has been understandably upset and vocal about this. It seems that they had a falling out at some point, and AA was recently angry about being recorded and included in the JT LeRoy story. She was portrayed as willing to do anything, including seducing Laura’s sister-in-law who AA thought was the vulnerable JT LeRoy, to get the film rights to make The Heart is Deceitful Above All Things.

    Because Laura herself was abused as a child and it is a major theme in her work, and Jimmy Bennett played the son in the film adaptation of her own/JT’s book, this is deeply personal for her.

    She knows a lot, and seemed ready to unleash, but she’s trying to temper her emotions on Facebook:

    If you haven’t seen “Author: The JT LeRoy Story” documentary, I highly recommend it. It’s a fascinating, almost unbelievable, true story.

  57. Anita says:

    Karen, thank you for that great time line. I missed this post yesterday afternoon somehow.

    Morgan, I just read your comment about having a dream about Bourdain. I had a crazy dream about him last night. It was so vivid and at the end he just disappeared without saying goodbye. I was pissed! I guess just like real life.

    I did see Bruce’s post about AA and the photos without knowing what was coming. OMG! Those were so disgusting. He needed to post a warning about that. It almost made me sick.

  58. feijicha says:

    TMZ (yes, I know) is running a story headlined: Anthony Bourdain Paid Accuser in Sexual Assault Case in which they include contents of texts between AA and Tony about this, in which Tony is totally on her side, he paid the guy off, and disparages him as a loser and states that whatever happens he’s with AA.. Very sad reading indeed.!2018/08/21/asia-argento-anthony-bourdain-broke-sexual-assault-rape-settlement

  59. feijicha says:

    Bourdain and Argento — who were dating for over a year before Bourdain’s death — texted each other about Jimmy Bennett, referring to him as a “donkey” and Bourdain writing that paying him is “no admission of anything, no attempt to buy a cover up, simply an offer to help an obviously tortured soul whose desperate and trying to jack you for money.”

    Bourdain goes on to say, “Or you just tell him to f*** himself. Either way, I am with you.”

    As we reported, Argento did not want an NDA as part of the settlement since she railed on Harvey Weinstein — whom she had accused of raping her — for using NDAs to silence his victims.

    Bourdain seemed to agree in the texts, saying, “You are not buying silence. Only freedom from inconvenience. And to help a ‘poor twisted goof’ get his life together.”

    Asia responds, “I will never buy his silence for something that isn’t true since I am also broke.” Yet she claims in other texts that he was the sexual aggressor.

    And there’s this … at one point Argento says, “I don’t fear him [Bennett]. I am no Puritan, google my ass.”

  60. feijicha says:

    She continues throwing Tony under the bus. An article appeared in Variety, a major entertainment industry publication entitled Asia Argento Denies Sexual Assault, Says Payoff Was Anthony Bourdain’s Idea

    part of it reads:

    She contends that Bennett was motivated by his own “severe economic problems” and his belief that Bourdain was a wealthy target with a reputation to protect.

    “Anthony insisted the matter be handled privately and this was also what Bennett wanted,” Argento said in her statement. “Anthony was afraid of the possible negative publicity that such person, whom he considered dangerous, could have brought upon us. We decided to deal compassionately with Bennett’s demand for help and give it to him. Anthony personally undertook to help Bennett economically, upon the condition that we would no longer suffer any further intrusions in our life.”

  61. feijicha says:

    it has even been picked up by People magazine which is running a story with a similar headline.

    One interesting piece from the People article is this:

    Bennett was reportedly paid $380,000 by Argento and Bourdain and as part of the settlement, he forfeited the copyright to a selfie from May 9, 2013 — which was among the documents the Times says it received — of Bennett and Argento lying in bed, according to the Times.

  62. I’m not sure why I’m choosing to chime in now, since I’ve been following along for over two months, but here I am commenting for the first time. I find the TMZ article to be really confusing. I get that AA made a statement, but where is all of the other information coming from – the texts between Tony and AA, the contradictory statements about whether or not she claims to have had or not had a sexual relationship with Bennett, etcetera? Totally convoluted, or I’m slow.

    And, Karen you and your readers are so insightful and witty. It’s been cathartic reading and processing with all of you.

  63. catsworking says:

    Anita, every time I visit Bruce’s blog, I first get a warning that the content is mature or something, and I have to click through to it. He’s using Blogspot. I don’t know if WordPress would allow such explicit photos.

    In looking at the AA porn, I did momentarily think that her nipples looked different than how they were in the naked pics she took years ago while pregnant with her daughter — paler. If it was a Photoshop job, that explains it. They weren’t hers.

  64. catsworking says:

    feijicha, I am beyond shocked even as I expected it to play out this way. And it looks like there ARE plenty of texts and they’re coming out.

    She lied, made herself the victim, of course. Bourdain believed her, as expected, and paid.

    But it doesn’t explain her selfie on the hotel balcony where she was all but licking her chops anticipating the arrival of her “attacker.”

  65. catsworking says:

    Welcome, thefourthtakegmailcom! I’m with you on the TMZ story. What we’re getting is AA’s statement, which devolves into some legalese at the end, so she probably had some attorney input.

    We’ve got no confirmation on sourcing of the supposed texts. I find it very hard to imagine that Bourdain was so spooked by a 22-year-old guy who can’t drive because of vision issues, living with his parents on the West Coast — and whom he’d never met — was such a threat to him that he was willing to fork over that kind of money out of the goodness of his heart. None of that makes any sense, and she can get away with it because he’s not here to refute her.

    As for AA’s claim that there was nothing sexual about her relationship with Jimmy, the photos don’t lie. She’s hanging all over him. They’re in bed at least half-naked together. Puleez.

    If Jimmy got incensed over seeing her rail against Weinstein, I really hope her statement saying he bascially raped her pisses him off enough to go to the police and file charges so they can investigate. There was an article in Variety saying they’re just trying to do interviews right now.

    It was inevitable that as soon as AA opened her mouth, this would turn into a total shit show. Always the victim. Always using her sex appeal (such as it is) to get a wealthy older man to bail her out.

  66. Pinktenaj says:

    Didn’t some of Anthony’s crew or someone close to him, say that he did things for her..that they wouldn’t get into? Or something to that affect. Maybe this is what they were referring to. Seems I read that somewhere.

  67. Lynn says:

    Karen far more damning than the anticipation photo is the pic of her and Jimmy actually in bed. Ugh. AB was so hypnotized by this skank that he believed her sob story, that she was innocent, and that Jimmy was basically just looking to ‘jack you for money’ as he said, and paid him.

    I love how even if this is all true, she tosses AB under the bus by making sure we all get loud and clear that it was HIS idea for the payoff.

    Here’s where she gets into trouble – she claims in her statement there was no sex at all with Jimmy. Yet in those texts with AB, she says Jimmy was the aggressor – “I wasn’t raped but I was frozen. He was on top of me. After he told me I had been his sexual fantasy since he was 12.” Right there, AB should have been suspicious. Just how many times are we expected to buy that this woman has been a victim of assault?? But instead he bought her story that this 17 yr old, who looks about half of Ashtray’s weight, got on top of her, and she couldn’t fight him off. Riiiight.

    Also if she wasn’t the aggressor, why did she give Jimmy booze and tell his family she wanted to be alone with him? And then there’s that photo of her and Jimmy in bed.

    Apparently even the photo did not raise any doubt in AB’s mind (pathetic) and how dumb of him to be discussing this with her over text. Jeez. I never say anything in texts that I wouldn’t want the world to see. And I’m not discussing payoffs against potential illegal activity! How could a smart man but such a dumb ass rube? Thinking with his dick, that’s how.

    (No surprise she was/is ‘broke’. That right there speaks volumes. But then 12 packs of cigs per day is costly.)

  68. Lynn says:

    Karen – you’re right we don’t know for sure those texts are real. I have no idea how one would manufacture texts to look like they came from someone else. No doubt AA would save any texts from AB she felt she might need at some point. However, I have to say those do sound like AB.

    I have no problem buying that he was in so deep with this woman he’d have done anything for her. Believed any story she concocted. He said himself he didn’t give a crap about money. I’m sure in his mind he was ‘protecting’ her and himself.

    And just because Jimmy was 22 and living with his parents doesn’t mean he couldn’t be a threat. So I also have no problem believing AB could have seen him as a threat – heck even if Jimmy was simply upsetting his lord and master Ashtray, that would have been enough for AB to want to make him go away. (Remember his cinematographer met a similar fate – gone bc he ‘upset’ the precious AA). There, baby, all better. Puke

  69. feijicha says:

    well the other curious factor is her saying that Bennett was looking for money because he perceived TONY as being wealthy– not that he perceived HER as being wealthy,. So…he’s a money-grubber, he knows she’s dating Tony who he thinks is wildly rich, and decides to make up a story about her assaulting him so he can get Tony’s money? They weren’t even married or anyway legally bound….that seems a risky gamble to get the money. Tony could just as easily said “I’m not paying that loser”. Which, frankly, I’m shocked he didn’t do. Not his problem. I can see if he covered the costs of her talking to his lawyer (which he seems to have done) but otherwise…..and the language of him disparaging the accuser seems odd…. maybe he’d toned down his judgmental side for his work and we are hearing how he really talked…..or maybe, we are hearing how convoluted his thinking got because of his relationship with this woman. He truly became her enabler.

    And he appears to have become just like a Trump voter– my person can do no wrong. Just like Trump knew he could shoot someone in the middle of 5th Avenue in NYC and get away with it, AA seems to have had great confidence she could lie to Tony about her past and present behavior and he’d not even question it. So, so, sad. And it raises the point– if he was so frikkin happy with her, why kill himself? What black hole of despair was he in where there seemed no other way out than to kill himself? Where whatever pain he was in seemed so unbearable and so without end that it was better to kill himself? Clearly he wasn’t seeing her as salvation or hope or comfort at that moment in time. Why is that? You have to think he finally saw her for the tormentor she is. Heartbreaking.

    And now, her “protector, love, rock” becomes the one to conveniently throw under the bus and accuse of encouraging her cover up.

  70. feijicha says:

    sorry, I forgot to add that if you read all her statements today she refers to “us”– that Tony was worried about Bennett being a danger to “us” to get him out of “our lives” “we decided to act compassionately” to avoid further intrusion into “our lives”. Not a single “I”, “My” behavior, “my” decision,….. nada. She’s ensuring everyone sees Tony as complicit.

  71. Laura N. says:

    Wow…I just can’t with all of this. SMH. You know, this never would have been an issue had he just kept his mouth shut throughout the whole #MeToo thing. If he’d just said “I love and support my girlfriend, Asia, and all the other women speaking their truths” etcetera, etcetera, this would not have been an issue. He would have been able to walk away from her and the public would have totally understood. But no, he had to make it his crusade too. Why? Because he was obsessed with her and couldn’t think straight. And in the process, he became the male face of the movement alongside Ronan Farrow. And then he became as as insufferable and smug as Asia and Rose. Imagine if he were alive right now, walking the earth TODAY, with this news breaking. Imagine how the public would be viewing him right now. People are already expressing their disappointment even though he’s gone. His reputation would be taking a MAJOR hit right now. The male face of #MeToo paying off the victim his girlfriend groomed raped when he was a minor? Come on.

    I think it’s safe to say that this is why he decided to check out. I’m so upset over this. He signed his death certificate the minute he took up with that monster.

  72. Laura N. says:

    He did all of that for her like a complete fool, put his good name, his money, and his career on the line for a a fake feminist who raped a teenager, only for her to turn around and cheat on him for all the world to see. No wonder he hung himself. SMH, this is all just too much to take.

  73. Lynn says:

    “and the language of him disparaging the accuser seems odd…. maybe, we are hearing how convoluted his thinking got because of his relationship with this woman.”

    I think some are seeing AB with too Rose-colored a glass. He could be super vitriolic against those he disliked. And anyone who crossed her became an enemy (exhibit A, the cinematographer he had fired). His language re: Jimmy seemed right in line – you’re upsetting AA, you’re my enemy too. Laura’s right, just like a Trumpist.

    Laura even if he’d never spoken a word of support about her or #Metoo, the payoff would have been enough to make him look bad. His reputation is taking a hit even in death over this. But yes, if he’d lived I can’t imagine the backtracking he’d be doing. What could he say in his own defense? “I was in love, I believed her, I was wrong?” Or would he back up her story that Jimmy’s a liar, knowing the criminal investigation might prove otherwise. His hypocrisy is sad in how he automatically dismisses Jimmy’s story. Rose got $ from Harvey but AB still saw her as a victim.

    Like Omarosa’s tapes, I’m sure these texts are just the beginning.
    Ashtray-ia probably has scores of embarrassing texts and may be holding them out against AB’s family if there is litigation. Probably threatening to release them if they don’t give her the remaining $180k Tony promised her. I can only hope the family has texts from AB’s phone that expose at least some of her evil. (And hopefully the investigation will find enough evidence to prosecute her for sex with a minor.)

  74. catsworking says:

    Welcome, Pinktenaj! Yes, a lot of people have said he invested a fortune in her and helped her in various ways. This was probably one of them, and there may be even more we don’t know about.

  75. catsworking says:

    feijicha, don’t forget that three days before he died, Tony saw this woman he’d sunk a fortune into and staked his reputation on in the arms of a 28-year-old. This on the heels of shelling out $200K to pay off a 22-year-old.

    That might have sent ME over the edge.

  76. creiber says:

    Lynn, that is a good point and actually a question. DId Jimmy leak the emails after his payments were not being made( assuming Anthony was making them while alive)?
    Was there a claim against his estate? ( When someone dies, a notice must be published in a law journal so that any debtors can come forward. They only have a certain amount of time to make a claim against an estate).
    Did these emails get leaked as a defense againt a claim on his estate?

  77. feijicha says:

    Lynn, if you see my previous comment I also say that maybe he had toned down his rhetoric in interviews and such and what we are hearing in the texts (if real) are how he really felt about things. So I don’t think I for one am looking at him with rose-colored glasses.

    I was also thinking that, as we speculate that his despair came from realizing what she truly was, maybe that wasn’t it at all. Maybe, like any good abuser (sarcasm) she had groomed him to believe it was up to him to make her life better, and she was in the beating him down phase– belittling, making him feel despite all he’d done that in fact he wasn’t doing ENOUGH for her –(could the Clement stuff have fit in here? If you don’t appreciate me other men do? who knows) and maybe he was in despair feeling like he’d somehow failed her and wasn’t able to do enough for her…… twisted relationships don’t have to make sense to outsiders, but somehow they make sense to the person/people in them. Again, said all the way around. I have a sickening feeling that if he were here he’d be defending her still. She seems to think so. It does play to his whatever you want to call it– rogue, outlaw, outsider, fascination.

  78. Isabel Horvath says:

    Just sharing something “interesting” that caught my eye on FB.

    Erin Elizabeth (Erin Elizabeth – Health Nut News and partner of Dr. Mercola) posted something yesterday – see below for her post and my comment to her, which she just answered. Hmm.

    Erin Elizabeth
    Yesterday at 1:04 AM ·
    One of my family members FROM France who is an award winning journalist says Bourdain didn’t hang himself from a door knob (he was 6’4) i just feel sorry for him because he seems to have been surrounded by some sick #Q$(s. Oh and Argento’s accuser was an underage teenage boy (Under 18).

    Isabel Horvath Erin Elizabeth can you elaborate any on why your French relative says Bourdain didn’t hang himself by using doorknob? Just because of his height – that that’s a factor in some way here – or is there more to the story?

    Like · Reply · 14m

    Erin Elizabeth I could explain more details but I don’t want to end up found hung by a door knob at 5 foot 10.

    · Reply · 4m

    Isabel Horvath Okay.

    Like · Reply · 1m

  79. Anita says:

    Karen, yes I get that same warning on Bruce’s blog, but I guess I just wasn’t prepared to see a disgusting naked Asia Argento! With other things going on in and out of that body. Now I will steady myself before looking at photos. I do love his writing (like yours) and will continue to read him. Despite the occasional gross out.

  80. catsworking says:

    creiber, Jimmy got a lump sum of $200K in April, with a payment schedule of the remainder over 18 months going forward. The settlement was between Jimmy and AA. I haven’t seen that Bourdain was involved in it at all except that Jimmy got in touch with AA through Bourdain’s lawyer with his intent to sue. The incident happened three years before Bourdain met her, and he had absolutely nothing to do with it except that she dragged him into with by saying she was “broke.”

  81. catsworking says:

    Isabel, that’s very interesting, and wondering how her relative would know a detail that we’ve never seen reported. But as I’ve been saying, there are many people out there who were involved in distant ways with the situation who know things.

    I never got the doorknob thing. I figured he used the shower pipe or a towel bar, something higher, because he was so tall. Also wondered how whatever he used didn’t tear out of the wall. But I watch very few crime/mystery shows, so I’m not well-versed in this stuff at all.

  82. catsworking says:

    Anita, Bruce certainly pulls no punches. 😉

  83. Mira says:

    That is Bruce’s style, and it has been showcased by AB
    in the Chicago episodes.
    The porn photos he used are obvious photo shops, but he does it to illustrate how he feels about a person.
    And it is no secret how he feels about AA.

    She still commands attention, and that is the part I hate. Its all about her. We have all been sucked in to this black hole, and that is what people with severe personality disorders do – project their crap onto others and make us all feel as yuk as they do.

  84. Lynn says:

    I thought the reporting was that he hung himself from the shower rod. Apparently (as explained by AJ Benza lol) height is irrelevant. The person can simply kneel, put the loop around their neck, attach the other end to something reasonably sturdy (door knob, shower rod, closet hook), and then lean forward from the knees. The body’s weight is then mostly on the neck/throat. Air supply is cut off from the brain, resulting in death.

    Fejicha interesting point. He seemed to take it awfully personally that he in any way may have assisted predatory behavior with his book KC, so perhaps it wasn’t a stretch for him to blame himself where Ashtray was concerned. That her unhappiness with him or dissatisfaction with the relationship was somehow his failing. The bottom line is I don’t think there’s a soul out there in his family, friends or fan base who don’t think he’d be alive right now if he had never fallen for Rotten Crotch.

  85. Rachel says:

    Nobody agrees to make such a large settlement in these types of cases unless they know that the other party has enough proof of the assault to back up their claim. Jimmy Bennett’s lawyer said he will be making a statement of his own at some point. They were smart to wait until AA came out with this twisted, bullsh-t story. The woman is addicted to texting, instagramming and twittering.. He probably has texts and other proof that haven’t come out. Now that AA has opened the Pandora’s box, it will all come flying out. Has she been fired from X-factor yet? They are probably looking for her replacement right now.

  86. creiber says:

    The point is that it looks like she or Jimmy is setting it up to sound like Bourdain intended to pay the accuser the remaining payments. I get that the agreement was between Argento and Jimmy. It’s complicated, but I am wondering if she relied on Bourdain’s promise to pay when negotiating the settlement. I am not sure if that is enforceable or not.

  87. keely says:

    You know, the rumored constant interruption of AB’s shooting in France by AA (screaming phone calls, etc) might support the idea that AB was getting belittled by her and made to feel that he wasn’t good enough/doing enough for the Goddess of the Universe. But I wonder if he felt a combination of both things (i.e., that he was failing her AND that she had fooled him). I have a hard time believing that the Clement pictures didn’t play some role in this, although why that would be the last straw for him over other shitty & insane things she had done, I don’t know. At the very least, I think he was starting to realize that she didn’t give a shit about him (an understatement); and that alone can really be difficult. It was like, “not only am I total hypocrite, but my Goddess actually hates me.” There is no reason to live after that. I mean, obviously, I don’t believe that but unfortunately, he must have.

  88. catsworking says:

    Juan, I think this Vice story has a little different slant to it, but they’re reporting the same quotes from her statement, and I’m not taking it as her exactly “blaming” Tony — yet. If her statement doesn’t go over well, she may shift into, “Well, it was all Tony’s doing. I thought he was crazy to throw his money away on that kid, but he insisted.”

  89. catsworking says:

    Lynn, I never saw anywhere exactly how he did it except with the bathrobe belt. The way you describe using a doorknob makes sense. I’m thinking of old Westerns where they would hang people by dangling them from trees or gallows. That was awful. A doorknob seems more humane, if still awful. I’m sorry I now know how to do it. ;-(

  90. catsworking says:

    Rachel, I do think Jimmy’s lawyer probably had him wait to see how AA plays his round. Much better for him to respond to her lies with his own proof than be the first one to speak and have her twist it her way.

    I agree that the amount of the settlement was absurd, and don’t believe for a moment Tony’s lawyer or hers would advise dropping a shitload of money on that kid purely out of compassion. Asia says she’s broke, too. What’s Tony? Alfa Bank?

    creiber, none of us has seen the paperwork, but since Bourdain wasn’t a party to the intent to sue, I’d doubt he’d be dragged into it for the settlement. I’d think he gave the money to AA, who passed it to Jimmy. Now Tony’s gone, all bets are off. Can’t see the Bourdain family agreeing to honor that commitment.

    AA’s on the hook to find another sugar daddy before her next payment due date rolls around.

    I read that some Italians on social media are demanding that AA be fired from X Factor. It begins airing September 8. I would say if she keeps putting bizarro statements out, the producers could decide she’s too high-maintenance and embarrassing and cut her loose.

  91. Pinktenaj says:

    Oh my word..I as not prepared for those photos on Bruce’s blog..though I had been warned..Yikes!! I’m not easily shocked..been a nurse for years. But why would any woman pose like that? What about her children..I had seen her naked pics while pregnant..smoking her brains out..Mother of the year she is not. But that was some nasty stuff! I do agree that I can’t see what Tony found appealing in that raggedy ass mess! I feel for his family as now she is telling the world he paid off Jimmy. I wonder if she threatened to make that known in some of their last conversations. Guess we will never know unless the family speaks about what was on his phone. Is it reasonable to think maybe they are the ones who outed this info about her lewd behavior with an underage child, that she had a Mother-Son relationship with no less. That would have to mess up this kid..forgive me if this has been hashed out before. Somewhere I read that the guy she was married to made a comment about how her children should be taken away. There was also a comment about how it had been attempted before with no success. I guess I have read so much about her I can’t keep the lurid details of he low-life straight. I just know enough to be horrified and feel sad for those kids..she uses them as props when needed to look like a Mother figure. She’s a Mother alright!!

  92. catsworking says:

    Pink, AA’s son should be a little worried to find out his mom has a son-rape fetish.

    I feel like all of this is going to have a cascading effect of bad news for AA.

    We have speculated that it was Bourdain’s people who leaked to the NYT, or it could have been Bennett.

    Now that AA has put texts out there showing Tony complicit in covering up her assault history, I wonder if we’ll see anything from his phone showing how she abused him in his last week on earth?

  93. Lynn says:

    “I have a hard time believing that the Clement pictures didn’t play some role in this, although why that would be the last straw for him over other shitty & insane things she had done”

    I think tangible evidence that she was screwing someone else would have been the hardest blow. I don’t buy the open relationship BS. Even if he’d agreed to that to placate her, seeing it is another matter. Those pics smack of a revenge move on her part. She intended to humiliate him.

    Ashtray seems IMO to be absolutely putting this on AB, maybe not completely, but she wants us all to think that AB was strongly pushing her to pay Jimmy off, and since she was broke, that meant AB paying. Notice – she makes sure to mention AB’s concern for his career/reputation, not just hers. She says he ‘suggested’ the pay off because he felt a need to ward off intrusion into ‘their’ lives.

    It would be an easy shift later for her to claim that she would have been fine either way, that she wasn’t that hot on paying Jimmy. After all she was ‘broke’ and ‘not a Puritan’ and ‘not afraid’ of Jimmy as the texts say. Translation – “Tony had more to lose than I and he wanted to pay Jimmy off more than I did”. If all AB gave her was a verbal promise that he’d pay the full amount, it will be interesting to see what a judge says. But I assume this would be her claim on the estate, not Jimmy’s, unless Jimmy’s lawyer has something signed by Tony, god forbid.

    Rose is getting Tweet-stormed, goody:

  94. keely says:

    Yes, Lynn, right after I pushed the submit button on that comment I realized that what I said didn’t make sense! Of course the Clement thing would be the last straw. And I never bought the open relationship thing either. So yeah, it would be super heartbreaking to see the tangible evidence and it would definitely have contributed to his rapid decline. I am just sitting here trying to put myself in AB’s shoes, and sometimes things get confusing when you’re thinking so much!

  95. Kat19 says:

    I think AB and AA had some sort of falling out around June 1 when she posted on his IG “Thank You for letting me be myself again”.
    I still think when Tony saw the pictures of her and Clement it was not the jealousy that sent him over the edge as much as the realization that she must be a predator. Who would spend the weekend in Rome with a kid that is young enough to be her son? I think he had to finally face the truth that he probably already knew deep down. He had been taken for a fool and if and when this came out his livelihood wood be ruined.

  96. Mi says:

    About Jimmy Bennett waiting five years, remember when it happened he was only two months past 16-years-old. When his attorney sent the Notice of Intent to Sue he was only 20-21. Now at 22, he’s still a kid; his brain hasn’t even finished developing. Maybe he was struggling financially and when he saw Asia parading around hypocritically screeching vitriol and martyrdom, he decided Asia deserved a taste of her own medicine and why not?

    I don’t agree that Anthony probably saw no way out without damaging his own reputation. He was beloved and he was courageous. If he’d said he was out and wanted nothing to do with Argento, his fans would have accepted whatever he said. He could have easily have distanced himself, even if his involvement in the hush money protecting Asia became public. All he had to do was to say he’d believed her and tried to help her but other than that it had nothing to do with him and in retrospect he wished he’d not been involved. Anthony was never shy about admitting his own mistakes and weaknesses. It’s one of his qualities that made him so beloved.

    I think that he’d given up a lot for Argento, compromised himself; compromised his friendships; his wife, time with his daughter, his money; had engaged in public personal pissing matches with other male celebrities over her “cause” and her; fired his friend for her; gushed over her publicly like a school boy; used IG & Twitter increasingly like those fools McGowan & Argento (never as bad as them, but still, not as judiciously as he used to), but then those photos of her with Hugo made the truth, that had probably been niggling at him for some time, came crashing down on him. I agree with his friend who wrote that his tears weren’t tears of jealousy, but of humiliation. I think whatever she shrieked at him (I say shrieked because she has rages easily) at the end made who she really was undeniable at that point and after drinking to drown his sorrows, impulsively (like often happens when devastated people drink alcohol) checked out to get away from her and his humiliation.

    There’s no benefit to the HW camp in this. Argento has filed no legal case against HW, not criminal or civil, and because of her 5 year affair with him would never win one, so ultimately she’s of no consequence to him and his outcome.

    He’d believed they were friends and thought she would defend him, but because she was with Anthony and not only didn’t need HW, she knew he was going down and didn’t want to be seen as the woman who sold out to the sexual harasser and rapist, instead of defending him she accused him and made herself a central figure of accusation to deflect examination of her history. Given all that, it makes sense HW feels satisfaction every time dirt is exposed about her.

    Also, #MeToo has no effect on his legal cases either, so there’s nothing in it for him in trying to undermine it or its self-appointed leaders.

    I doubt it was the Bourdain camp, too. Whoever sent that file to news media had access to the photos. When they settled, the photos were given to Argento. It’s possible it’s someone from her own camp who knew about the case or found her file and has it in for her. She’s a real bitch to a lot of people and she’s unpopular with a lot of Italians who’ve known her longer and better than Americans have. It’s possible someone is sticking it to her because they think she deserves it. Bourdain is just once again caught in her fall out and not here to defend himself.

  97. RD says:

    I really hope someone rescues that woman’s children. As you say, Cats, her son may be in danger.

  98. Mi says:

    Someone above point this written by her attorney out too and I’m curious about it because it’s an odd thing to write: “…it is a miserable condition of life that you live among shitty individuals who’ve preyed on both your strengths and your weaknesses.”

  99. Mi says:

    Catsworking, There is no Argento claim of rape for Weinstein’s lawyer to get thrown out. Argento has filed no legal case against Weinstein. No one has filed charges against him on her behalf and she’s not sued him in civil court. Just like McGowan, all she’s done is make a lot of noise but so have many women. In her case, she’s made a lot of noise despite not having much of a leg to stand on. She’s no threat to him. He is just gloating because he thinks she betrayed him and has used him to position herself to exploit #MeToo.

  100. keely says:

    Maybe I’ve never truly been in that place of complete & utter despair, hopelessness and resignation, but I just. don’t. get why he couldn’t have been like, “heyyy everyone, I fucked up big time in trusting and giving everything to this pathological liar and pedophile.” You know why he couldn’t have done that, though? Because she was still the Goddess to him, no matter what. His love for her had no bounds.

    Many want to believe now that AB was just a hypocrite and practically complicit in everything Asia did (despite the fact that the abuse of Jimmy occurred before AB knew her). I do see AB as somewhat of an enabler, which is really a much more accurate way of describing his behavior with her, but he was also himself taken advantage of. He was a victim. He unfortunately did not know what he had gotten into with her. I don’t know how he was so naive, but I guess we can assume that he did not have a brain left; he was thinking solely with his heart (not his other organ, as some have suggested)!

    Regarding the statement that AA’s lawyer made, it’s ironic. But I think it’s meant to imply that Bennett’s parents are the bad ones who screwed him up and hurt him; notice how she said ‘live amongst.’ In case anyone missed it, Bennett also had issues with his parents re: money. So I think the attorney was trying to shift the focus from her client to Bennett’s parents. It doesn’t really work the way she wanted it to work though..

  101. Mi says:

    Attraction to an adolescent has nothing to do with pedophelia, which is a psychiatric term for attraction to prepubescent children, so there’s no reason to connect pedophelia to her when discussing Jimmy Bennett.

  102. keely says:

    I am aware of what pedophilia is, and that’s exactly why I choose to use that term in connection with her — because I am relatively certain that she had been wanting to have sex with him since she first met him as a prepubescent child. There may be no proof of that, but her own statements about him from as far back as we can see have been quite odd for someone who claims to see him as a son. Her behavior also screams “grooming” to me.

    To call her anything less than this seems to be an injustice to Jimmy, in my opinion, but what do I know? And that’s not sarcasm, I’m saying that I really don’t know all the ins and outs of their relationship. To imply that she didn’t groom him, though, also seems to be kind of an injustice. It’s really not fair that he essentially was forced into a working relationship with her that she, being the adult, then turned into a long-term relationship unconnected to work. Something about that seems strange, doesn’t it?

  103. RD says:

    She treated him like a son figure since he was, what, 8? Pretty grim stuff. Someone should ensure her son’s safety.

  104. catsworking says:

    Mi, Jimmy was 2 months past 17 when Asia humped him, but still a minor.

    I agree with you about Bourdain’s reputation. He would have wiped the floor with Jimmy, had the kid been foolish enough to try to make any trouble. I can’t imagine how he could have, since they didn’t know each other. But Tony could have admitted his role and brushed off the rest, just as you said. In fact, his candor may have even raised his profile.

    Interesting theory about one of Asia’s own followers or enemies being the leaker. I would buy that. In fact, it would be very fitting.

  105. catsworking says:

    Yes, AA’s lawyer must be a real class act to write something like that to a person she’s settling with.

    Oh, and I forgot to mention earlier, as far as Tony and AA discussing this. There was only an “intent to sue” filed, not an actual lawsuit. I don’t know what level of confidentiality would apply to an intent.

  106. catsworking says:

    keely, I agree with you. AA brought Jimmy’s dispute with his parents over his earnings into her statement, I believe, trying to make him sound like some kind of habitual gold digger. (Imagine, wanting his own money back!)

    I don’t ascribe any evil motives to Bourdain, but do shake my head at how he, of all people, could have become so totally deluded about AA. And that brings me back to the rapid aging and some possible physical cause. He didn’t go from smart, savvy world traveler to drooling idiot being led around by the nose with blinders on without something else going on.

  107. catsworking says:

    Right, Mi. I looked up the law in California, and pedophilia involves a child younger than 13. What Asia allegedly did would be statutory rape. Even if Bennett was gung-ho, it’s still rape because he was below the age of consent.

  108. Mi says:

    Right. Sexual attraction to teens doesn’t mean attraction to young children. She could possibly be charged with statutory rape and sexual assault of a minor.

  109. Mi says:

    I forgot to say, regarding the porn photos of the genius’, although I read his blog, I’m disturbed by photoshopping pictures of people to make them look bad and then their being spread across the Internet with many people believing they’re real. I think it’s unethical, essentially a lie, even if it is of a lying skank like Argento.

    I feel the same way about copying photos that belong to others and spreading them on the Internet out of context to make them look bad. When people do bad things, what they’ve done is enough to hold them accountable for. We don’t have to lie or make things up about them too. That just makes us less than good too.

  110. keely says:

    “He didn’t go from smart, savvy world traveler to drooling idiot being led around by the nose with blinders on without something else going on.”

    Yeah, it’s called being addicted to sex with Satan LOL

    No, but really, I honestly think that was a crucial thing here. People like AA are, as bizarre as it seems to most of us, often able to do some verrry interesting things with sexual energy. I won’t get into it too much because I’m sure it would sound like a bunch of BS to many, but what’s so crazy about people like her is that they can give even a die-hard atheist the most transcendent, spiritual experience through sex. This may seem absurd, but I think Tony was hooked on whatever experience she gave him in this regard. I am convinced that he actually thought she was the source of an elevated, blissful state of consciousness. She was not. She was simply the vehicle through which it was translated. And unfortunately, many narcissists (even if they are themselves atheists!) have some pretty incredible abilities in this area. They have to — they have nothing else to offer, you know? So they feel this ‘need’ to develop a deep understanding of sexual energy, more so than the average person.

  111. feijicha says:

    I looked back over some of his comments about her — the pic with her where he says what a great day he had with her that day “you made me forget myself” and then another where he’s talking about how they each understand work comes first and he says “I’m much lighter” or something similar, and then he says “I enjoy being with someone I see as a peer”…. wtf did that mean? That he didn’t find the other women in his life his equal — and in what way? Intellectually? I gather that he liked that AA could go toe to toe with him in arguing a philosophical point or about history of film and all that…..and then they probably had mind blowing sex……pretty potent combination.

  112. catsworking says:

    Mi, I agree with you about the Photoshopped AA porn photos. They cross a line. These days when nobody can be sure of what’s real and what’s fake, they’re too dangerous. I’m sorry he posted those. His words were powerful enough. He didn’t need those.

  113. catsworking says:

    keely, I believe you in that she had some bizarre hold over him that could only have been attributed to sex because she’s about a 4 in the looks department. If you subtract the ink-smeared skin and perpetually greasy-looking, smoky-smelling hair (and the ashtray breath) make that a 2.

    I really feel that he thought, at his age, it was truly his last shot at love. After Nancy, he went for much younger women and probably couldn’t see himself going back to someone more age-appropriate after he had a reputation for attracting arm candy. Part of the persona.

    I’m still sad that he and Nigella Lawson never made a go of it. She was the woman he needed after Ottavia.

  114. catsworking says:

    feijicha, if Tony really saw AA as a peer, he was more far gone than anyone knew. I think both his wives were far more his equal in what mattered in a partnership and were always there for him, which was the type of connection he needed.

    With AA, he was always on the chase, and if he lost focus, or didn’t worship her sufficiently, or was out of her sight for an instant, she was off with another man to punish him. The relationship seemed very master-slave, with her being the master.

  115. Lynn says:

    I think by peer he meant work. Both of them in the entertainment field. He saw her as some kind of creative genius. A collaborator. Probably found that refreshing after having 2 wives who didn’t work at all. What’s laughable is despite his gushing ‘this woman likes to work,’ clearly she doesn’t or she wouldn’t be broke. She’s a lazy gold digger.

    Here’s a theory. We know he had addictive and self destructive tendencies. Addicts tend to need harder and harder drugs. Tony needed harder women. I’m sure at first Ottavia filled his need for a ‘dangerous’ woman with their joint tattoo session, her MMA, the way she could down 2 full dinners and still be hungry, and drink him under the table (so he claimed). She was certainly not a conventional woman or wife.

    But in time he needed much dirtier, more dangerous, scary, odd. Ashtray with her devil worship, witchcraft obsessions and kinky sex. She was the unclean, unhappy, disorderly country of his dreams. The Haiti to Ottavia’s Greece and Nancy’s Norway. Voodoo. Keely I agree – hearing her “sexy” phone voice in that JT doc was really spooky. It was like hearing a ghost/phone sex operator/hypnotist/death threat all in one.

    She’s one of those people who’s great at subsuming others. And having practiced on about 450,000 men, 80,700 women, 1 dog, 1 person she thought was trans and at least 1 underage teen boy, she’s probably great in the sack.

  116. Pinktenaj says:

    I agree with those saying she was probably good for some crazy, sweaty, mind-blowing sex. Psychotic people are good at pulling others into their whatever means…leaving you to feel like you can’t live without them. Sex is often one of their tools to hook someone…it can become addicting, and we know Tony was an addict and quickly fell under her spell. As a guy once told me “most guys want a lady in the street and a freak in the sheets”. She met one of those qualifications. She wanted to use some beastiality in a film she made with her Father and Uncle..but they were not on board with that…can’t imagine what that conversation was like. Images of the horse porn reference made earlier in this thread comes to mind. Guess French kissing a big ole dog got her juices flowing!

  117. Pinktenaj, reminds me of a “joke” that Tony told during one of his shows.

    “In defense of less than perfect ribs: “It’s like this: you’re married to a Harvard graduate super model, right, but every once in awhile you want some really nasty girl in cheap heels with a really trashy Queens accent who chews gum. I’m saying you like that, not me.”

  118. Lenora says:

    Cats working,
    You mentioned Nigella before were they dating?

    Wow what a twisted sad turn. It’s just gross. I can’t even wrap my head around what AA did to that kid. There is a possibility Tony didn’t know all the gruesome details. Yes it was his lawyer that AA used but because of lawyer client privilege Tony wouldn’t have known everything. And finally figured it all out when it was too late with too much invested. Tony if you are out there listening, WTF were you thinking?

  119. catsworking says:

    Lenora, AA had her own lawyer, Carrie Goldberg. She was the one who sent the settlement to Bennett with the note lamenting that he was surrounded by “shitty individuals.” The original paperwork went to Tony’s lawyer probably because Bennett didn’t know who else to send it to.

    I don’t know that Nigella and Tony were ever a “thing,” but they spent months together without their spouses while filming three seasons of The Taste. They were good friends and he helped her get through her divorce during that time. They just seemed like a good fit if things with Ottavia ever went south. SHE would have been his “peer.” Just wishful thinking on my part.

    I just quickly read the series of texts on TMZ and my mind is blown, and not in a good way. For some reason, it makes me feel terribly upset about Tony all over again. But I have to run out to get a damn mammogram this morning. (It’s hot as FUCK here and I can’t wear any deodorant before the ritual boob-smashing, so my pits are sticking to my sides. TMI? Sorry!) More later…

  120. feijicha says:

    You know I went back and re-looked at the supposed texts/comments between Tony and Fetid Hole…. and it was reported as:

    August 21, 2018 at 12:00 pm
    Bourdain and Argento — who were dating for over a year before Bourdain’s death — texted each other about Jimmy Bennett, referring to him as a “donkey”

    and Bourdain writing that paying him is “no admission of anything, no attempt to buy a cover up, simply an offer to help an obviously tortured soul whose desperate and trying to jack you for money.”
    Bourdain goes on to say, “Or you just tell him to f*** himself. Either way, I am with you.”

    I split this because it’s the second paragraph that is interesting– he is saying if you WANT to pay him to make him go away, OR if you want to just tell him to fuck off, I’m with you either way. Read it carefully. So that’s a far cry from him “insisting” that it be a payoff.

    I think Miss Fetid Pants is once again just making shit up to cover for herself.

  121. feijicha says:

    Karen, a la the joke cited a few posts back, Nigella would have been the Harvard model i.e., not trash enough for Tony’s darkest cravings. Hence, FH.

  122. catsworking says:

    feijicha! You are brilliant! Yes, he’s absolutely giving her a choice here. She’s getting so tangled in her own lies that she missed this bit of self-incrimination.

    Today she’s all about Tony “forcing” her to pay off Bennett so she can claim to be the innocent victim again.

  123. Dingobeast says:

    OMG, cats working-the gall of that skank!! Tony totally forced her to take his money and pay off a kid she molested, riigght. Her lies are so obvious. I hope her ex uses this to get his son back from her, she cannot be trusted with kids.

  124. catsworking says:

    The NYT has published Jimmy Bennett’s statement. He’s living on his own with his girlfriend now, and AA is paying him $10,000 a month under the 18-month payment schedule established after Bourdain put out the original $200,000, so the numbers add up to the $380,000.

  125. This may sound conspiratorial but, I briefly entertained the notion that Asia and this kid were in on it together. She’s so horrible, I’m thinking the worst.

  126. catsworking says:

    Holy shit, Hob! Is it Trump wearing me down, or does that really sound not so terribly far-fetched?

    But let me get a grip here. I don’t think she’s that strategic, and long-term planning is definitely beyond her capabilities. She can’t even keep straight from day to day whether she had sex with Jimmy.

    Yet another parallel to Trump. So many lies, so little coherence.

  127. “Holy shit, Hob! Is it Trump wearing me down, or does that really sound not so terribly far-fetched?”

    Honestly, I think it’s because the world is so crazy right now, it seems like anything is possible. But, yeah, she doesn’t seem bright enough to pull that off. She can’t even keep her lies straight.

  128. Morganlf says:

    She’s a drug addled liar. Drugs are implicated here. I think she has direct knowledge of why Tony aged so much in 2 years. Maybe she’s negotiating to keep what she knows quiet.

    Whatever, his fans won’t care. He was a poet, a raconteur, a rambler and a sinner.

    He was no angel, but he wasn’t nasty or mean spirited. He was flip with words and took on pompous aholes with zeal. No one ever won a word battle with him.

    Unlike trump who is autocatic, vile, cowardly, venal, a liar and danger to democracy.

    How unfair shit is.

  129. Pinktenaj says:

    Just read about Jimmy living with his “girlfriend”..Momma not gonna like that..she’s probably sending him nude selfies by the dozens. Can just imagine her psychotic self being jealous..that her “son” her “love” has someone who is hopefully age appropriate and good for him..instead of a vile viper rapist hypocrite.

  130. keely says:

    LOL @Pinktenaj. You’ve got a point, she has zero self-control. That’s what has never ceased to amaze me about her kind. They are able to manipulate and gain control over some of the smartest people, so they think they’re geniuses; yet they never fail to do absolutely idiotic, incriminating things for all to see. Their drive to cause pain overpowers their so-called intelligence. While this need to hurt others often results, sadly, in irreparable damage, at least it usually exposes them in time.

    It still makes me so sad that Bourdain thought of this imbecile as a genius. Didn’t he actually say that? It’s so embarrassing. If he was in his right mind instead of having sex with a creature from the pits of hell, I’m sure he’d be pretty damn embarrassed too. Which convinces me that, yeah, humiliation was the ultimate cause of his death. He couldn’t be in denial about her anymore once the Clement pictures came out.

  131. catsworking says:

    keely and Pinktenaj, it would surprise me a bit if AA didn’t start cyberstalking Jimmy. She’s paying all his bills for the remaining 14 months or so of their agreement, so she may feel that she owns him and would take great pleasure in doing things like sending him naked selfies. I think she’s that stupid.

    And he’s still naive enough to let her get away with it. He kept quiet for five years because he didn’t know how to handle what she did to him. I hope his girlfriend is nice, but I saw a photo today of him taken I think earlier this week and he really looked a mess. Mussy hair, face covered with stubble (WHY is that a thing right now?), looked heavier. Nothing like the fresh-faced boy most of the news stories are showing.

  132. Morganlf says:

    Second time she referred to being raped as “frozen”. Said it in her Harvard talk as well. Odd.
    I Suppose shes been “froze” a lot.
    She froze when a 300 pound prominent producer “attacked” her after she stalked him for a job.

    Froze again when when a 17 year old weighing a
    buck 25 attacked her?


  133. feijicha says:

    why thank you Karen. Just doing my job. 🙂

  134. catsworking says:

    Morgan, again, she’s just like Trump. She can talk a good story about how brave and tough she is when she’s somewhere else, but faced with the person she’s dissing, she “freezes.”

    It’s laughable for her to think anyone believes that a 37-year-old woman with her well-documented sexual experience with multiple men (and at least one woman) by that time, who had given birth to two kids, didn’t know how to handle herself when a 17-year-old came on to her.

    I just hope Jimmy didn’t catch anything uncurable from their encounter.

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